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<\/figure>\n\n\n\n2- Don\u2019t let your children work you against each other<\/strong>.\nAlways come with a united front, even if you\u2019re arguing about something or\ndon\u2019t even like the spouse. They will smell a weak union and attack. It\u2019s in a\nchild\u2019s nature. If a child asks for something and one parent says no, if that\nchild asks the other parent, the answer should automatically be no, regardless\nof what they\u2019re asking for and an additional punishment should be handed down.\nThat will stop and there will be peace in your home. Otherwise, you\u2019re asking\nfor chaos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 3- Obedience should come before love<\/strong>. Know that\nyou\u2019re in control. He\/She is a child. He needs to obey first and then his life\nwill be more fun. He can love on you AFTER he has obeyed you. That\u2019s something\nall kids do. They start loving and hugging to get out of obeying. \u201cbut mom, I\nlove you!\u201d your response should be \u201cif you love me, then obey me.\u201d Remember\nthat a child is learning from every single thing you do, don\u2019t do, say and\ndon\u2019t say. They learn from EVERYTHING. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 4- Teach them to fear you<\/strong>. The Bible talks about\nsomething called \u201cRighteous fear\u201d or \u201cHoly fear\u201d. It\u2019s real and it needs to be\nin every child. They need to have a healthy\/righteous fear of the adults in\ntheir life. The way you know if he fears you is if you tell him to do\nsomething- pick something up- and he does it the first time, he fears you. If\nhe doesn\u2019t, he doesn\u2019t believe you\u2019re going to follow through with your\nthreats. Therefore, he doesn\u2019t fear you. That has to change. Because one day\nhe\u2019s going to try that on a teacher or law enforcement and it won\u2019t go well. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 5- Never give a toddler what he\/she cries for<\/strong>. Make\nthem stop crying then ask politely with a smile on their face. The moment you\ngive a child something because they cried for it, they learn that this is how\nyou get what you want. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 6- Restore peace by limiting the number of responses to a\n\u201cNo\u201d<\/strong>. Also teach the child that if the answer is no, there are certain\nresponses that are unacceptable. I tell my kids, \u201cYour adversity can\u2019t define\nyou. But your response to it WILL!\u201d I also limit the number of \u201cBut\u2026\u201d. I tell\nthem if they ask one more time, there will be consequence. Guess what happens,\npeace is restored. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 7- Always have 2 sets of punishments ready for a teenager<\/strong>.\nOne for if they tell truth and the other if they lie. They should always be\npositively reinforced for telling the truth and the punishment should be\nlighter. This will encourage them to bring you the truth every time. Also, the\nonly way to keep an open door of communication with a teenager is to assure\nthem that no matter what they bring you, that you won\u2019t get angry and blow up.\nBut rather that you\u2019ll sit down and talk it through. If they know they can talk\nto you and tell you they drank alcohol at a party the other night without you\ngetting angry and just talking to them about it, they will bring it to you. If\nyou blow up and get angry, they\u2019ll never bring another thing to you. There has\nto be a level of trust both ways. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 8- Everything belongs to you<\/strong>. With teenagers, the\nsooner you establish the expectation that everything in the house belongs to\nyou, whether they bought it or not, the more peaceful your time will be.\nTeenagers have to be saved from themselves and reminded daily that they are not\ngrown. If you want their phone, it\u2019s yours. If you want their room, it\u2019s yours.\nThat expectation will make your life as a parent much easier. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 9- Don\u2019t sugar coat life for them<\/strong>. Let them see the\ngood and not so good. Keep an open dialogue about these things. If everything\nis always taboo, they\u2019re going to go and try to find out why it\u2019s so taboo. If\nyou\u2019ve already discussed it and gave them examples of the consequences, they\nare much less likely to fall in the same trap. <\/p>\n\n\n\n 10- Make a point to teach him\/her how to act in public<\/strong>. Let him know that there are different standards for home and public places like church and restaurants. Your job is to teach. Prepare him for life after high school. I\u2019m sure your kid is a good kid, but he won\u2019t be for long if he is allowed to do anything he wants without consistent consequence. My mom always said she didn\u2019t want to raise a kid no one wants to be around. If we implement obedience habits now, the rest of their life, their relationships with teachers, law enforcement, professors, spouses, children, bosses and God, will be much smoother and healthier. <\/p>\n\n\n\n I know- it\u2019s a lot. And it\u2019s much easier said than done. But, unfortunately, at the end of the day, when it comes to parenting, a lot more is said than done. Begin to view your children as God\u2019s treasure that is in your care to prepare for the world we live in. That perspective will make this journey more fulfilling. Don\u2019t lose heart. Don\u2019t give up. Surround yourself with parents that you want to be like and other parents that are in a similar stage of life as you. And remember, there are perfect parents out there\u2026 they just don\u2019t have kids yet. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Stay Classy GP!<\/p>\n\n\n\n Grainger<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" We discussed perspectives and pitfalls in part 1. Now let\u2019s look at some persistence and practical applications. Here are ten (10) things we can do as parents to truly prepare our child to be ready for the world and for you to have a peaceful home along the way: 1-Currency. I didn\u2019t really spank my … <\/p>\n![\"\"](\"http:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/everything-belongs-to-me-1024x571.jpeg\")
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