{"id":353,"date":"2019-10-04T21:50:40","date_gmt":"2019-10-04T21:50:40","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/?p=353"},"modified":"2019-10-15T16:55:55","modified_gmt":"2019-10-15T16:55:55","slug":"you-cant-judge-me","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/2019\/10\/04\/you-cant-judge-me\/","title":{"rendered":"You Can’t Judge Me"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

You can\u2019t! Or can you? This phrase gets misused\u2026often. So I figured it\u2019s about time I addressed it. We all hear it. Especially when someone has done something very wrong or just used very poor judgment. To be clear, I\u2019ve done both of those many times. So in that regard, I don\u2019t \u201cjudge\u201d anyone either. But is that an acceptable response when we do those things?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To be clear, I\u2019m firmly of the belief that there is forgiveness for anything. That God is bigger than your problems. That you didn\u2019t do anything to earn God\u2019s love, so you can\u2019t do anything to lose it. I believe that no matter how \u201cbig\u201d the mistake, God is bigger and ready to move forward and move on. I also believe that if there is a true change of heart, then you accept the fact that God loves you where you are but loves you too much to leave you where you are<\/a>. Having said that, when confronted by someone with the realization that what you\u2019re doing is wrong, if your go-to phrase is \u201cyou can\u2019t judge me!\u201d, then we\u2019re no longer talking about someone that is looking for help. We\u2019re now talking about someone that refuses help, thus completely stifling your growth as a person.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Here\u2019s\nthe thing about that phrase. It\u2019s usually used as an attempt to remove shame\nand\/or attention. \u201cYou aren\u2019t perfect, so you can\u2019t judge me.\u201d It\u2019s also become\na self-serving license to live how we want with zero accountability for our\nactions. \u201cI can do whatever I want and you can\u2019t judge me!\u201d Obviously, neither\nis good or correct. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The first, \u201cyou aren\u2019t perfect, so you can\u2019t judge me\u201d, If that\u2019s where we live our lives, we only go backwards\u2026 at a fast pace. No one is perfect. So when you steal someone\u2019s wallet for the 14th<\/sup> time in 2 months right after you got out of jail for the same offense, you still want no one to judge you? I\u2019m not saying there isn\u2019t help. What I\u2019m saying is, if you have the propensity to make the same bad decision over and over, or even make a bunch of different bad decisions over and over, you need someone in your life \u201cjudging\u201d you to help you fix the wrong path you\u2019re on and improve the quality of your life. Claiming that no is perfect so no one can judge you allows you to just stay in same rut you\u2019ve been in and dig it even deeper. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\u201cI can do whatever I want and you can\u2019t judge me.\u201d This one is closely related. But maybe even worse. At least when you claim no one is perfect, you\u2019re admitting what you\u2019re doing is wrong on many levels. But doing whatever you want implies you have no intention of bettering yourself or just stopping the destructive behavior. This phrase often comes from a place of anger, resentment and on the defense. You feel attacked and are making yourself feel justified. You’re on a fast track to total destruction and You’re making every excuse why it\u2019s ok. Well it\u2019s not ok. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And what\u2019s interesting is the verse people quote when they\u2019re making this point. Luke 6:42 \u201cHow can you say to your brother, \u2018Brother, let me take the speck out of your eye,\u2019 when you yourself fail to see the plank in your own eye? You hypocrite.\u201d<\/a> And this is where they stop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They\u2019ve\njustified their own transgressions. The problem is there\u2019s more to the verse…\n\u201cfirst<\/strong> take the plank out of your\neye, and then<\/strong> you will see clearly\nto remove<\/strong> the speck from your\nbrother\u2019s eye.\u201d He didn\u2019t say you can\u2019t point out the speck, He only said take your\nplank out first, THEN you\u2019ll see the speck clearly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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This implies that we are, most certainly, supposed to judge each other. At least that\u2019s what this passage says, \u201cThese are the things which you should do: speak the truth with one another; judge with truth and pronounce the judgment that brings peace in [the courts at] your gates.\u201d ZECHARIAH 8:16 AMP<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So\nwhat now? Start pointing fingers? Nope. Continue to open your arms to those\nthat are struggling. Those that don\u2019t know another way until you show them.\nContinue to remember the chains that God set you free from. Continue to\ncelebrate with those making tough but eternal decisions. But also live your\nlife with accountability. Surround yourself with people that will call you out\n(or judge you) and push you to be a better person. Stop using this phrase as a\ncrutch and a license to stop growing as a person. Anything\nthat comes easy, probably isn\u2019t worth very much. It\u2019s not easy to grow as a\nperson. It\u2019s not easy to be walking one direction and make a turn in the other,\nknowing you may lose some friends along the way. It\u2019s tough. But it\u2019s worth it\nin the long run. You can judge me\u2026 but always in love!  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stay Classy GP! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grainger <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You can\u2019t! Or can you? This phrase gets misused\u2026often. So I figured it\u2019s about time I addressed it. We all hear it. Especially when someone has done something very wrong or just used very poor judgment. To be clear, I\u2019ve done both of those many times. So in that regard, I don\u2019t \u201cjudge\u201d anyone either. … <\/p>\n

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