{"id":314,"date":"2019-08-14T17:12:23","date_gmt":"2019-08-14T17:12:23","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/?p=314"},"modified":"2019-08-14T17:14:35","modified_gmt":"2019-08-14T17:14:35","slug":"to-family-or-not-to-family-part-2-the-pastor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/2019\/08\/14\/to-family-or-not-to-family-part-2-the-pastor\/","title":{"rendered":"To Family or Not To Family&#8230; Part 2- The Pastor"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Remember that school teacher you had that was one of your favorite teachers? Remember hearing that they either retired or passed away and how you felt? Sure, we all do. That person dedicated their entire life to help kids advance in life. If I asked for each of you to send me the name of that teacher, this would go on forever. The numbers are high! These days, there are more and more stories of teachers having sexual encounters with their students. Would it be fair to lump all those great teachers we just talked about in the same group with these knuckleheads that didn\u2019t do their job correctly? Of course not. But for some reason, we do it to pastors. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We have all heard news of a pastor mishandling funds, having affairs with secretaries, abusing staff members, and other atrocities. And those victims are just that, victims. Those things should have never happened. God called those men to a high calling and everyday temptation got the best of them. And on behalf of Christians that are not that way, we\u2019re truly sorry. These individuals don\u2019t represent the true heart of God\u2019s goodness. So what about those doing it right? Is it fair to lump those guys in with the entire group of church pastors in America?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In 2017, I\nsaw a report where there were 12 cases where a teacher had a sexual\nrelationship with a student. And that\u2019s 12 too many. Now think about how many\nteachers there are in America\u2026 yep, around 3.6 Million! One doesn\u2019t represent\nthe other. Also in 2017, there were 10 \u201cnotable\u201d preacher scandals. Maybe\nanother 4 or 5 that they don\u2019t consider notable. In 2017, there were\napproximately 400,000 head pastors in America. Again, one DOES NOT represent\nthe other. You simply cannot, in good conscience, blame the 399,985 pastors who\nare doing it right because 15 decided they couldn\u2019t handle the pressure of\nbeing a pastor. There\u2019s nothing right about that. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/struggling_pastor-e1565723396149.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-319\" width=\"231\" height=\"199\" srcset=\"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/struggling_pastor-e1565723396149.jpg 419w, https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/struggling_pastor-e1565723396149-350x301.jpg 350w, https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/struggling_pastor-e1565723396149-300x258.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 231px) 100vw, 231px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>By pressure,\nI mean intense scrutiny. I know of a pastor that has all glass walls in the\nchurch office. This guy understood that he\u2019s a target. Pastors are\nunnecessarily targeted and scrutinized almost like a political figure. They are\nheld, by society, to a perfect standard that no one can achieve. They\u2019re human.\nBut they\u2019re not allowed to be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They have a job. That job really isn\u2019t to make you feel good. It\u2019s to deliver truth. Usually, in delivering truth, it does make you feel good. Because you learn the truth that you serve a God who will never leave you, forsake you and cared enough for you that he was ok with His only son being murdered to take on and wear every single thing you and I do wrong. That selflessness alone, makes us grateful and feel better about our future.\u00a0 Another truth is that we&#8217;ve all <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bible.com\/bible\/111\/ROM.3.23.NIV\">fallen short<\/a> of God&#8217;s standard. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bible.com\/bible\/111\/ISA.64.6.NIV\">Our righteousness is like filthy rags<\/a>. The truth is some of us spend more time with our phones than our kids. The truth is God said we&#8217;re <a href=\"https:\/\/www.bible.com\/bible\/111\/MAL.3.8.NIV\">robbing Him<\/a> by not paying tithes. Truth doesn&#8217;t always feel good. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The problem\nis some pastors have lost sight of that truth. They just gloss over truth so\nthat they don\u2019t offend. After all, it would hurt their income. And somewhere in\nthere, they forget that God is their provider, not church members. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"alignleft is-resized\"><a href=\"https:\/\/renovation.church\"><img loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/kody.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-316\" width=\"316\" height=\"392\" srcset=\"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/kody.jpg 696w, https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/kody-350x435.jpg 350w, https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/kody-241x300.jpg 241w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 316px) 100vw, 316px\" \/><\/a><figcaption>(click on the picture to visit the church website)<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>But for the ones that are delivering truth, the only way they can is if they are willing to possibly offend you. They have to know that they are just delivering what God already said and in doing so, the Holy Spirit may offend or convict you in the process. But you have to be prepared for WHEN, not if, that happens. It\u2019s only a matter of time. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/pastorkodywoodard\/\">Pastor Kody Woodard<\/a>, of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/renovationgallatin\/?__tn__=kC-R&amp;eid=ARDR6VcReSp92voeYUD-QtlWcFy3xLYF4VXEnj0S7HtLqnoIY_DdqGrc4Lxwx9aG07WhLhkR-B0eyzAT&amp;hc_ref=ARTFRU4ykuIv1LPBI2Iw7hU4uXkSOj5azw2-xHY0HChNGMVBtnZu1Dss7foMtfpEg_8&amp;fref=tag&amp;__xts__[0]=68.ARAS0ZQGadNbFFIvH6JWLzaW1WsgvDHGFI0TpBVeiitRhYrZ2ZdyTCXShJ7wk7mtwHcNSuHPeGCvbVgsR5qeDqdJFqv7wdg52C3hPFQGG8C1qlDyft1bz4a5TLnLhHH5jNihpg0HNM4D79vihyEwSmZhG7rvfr7pPasAASHpfnjDfAwX49ifC_vrrdKbq-XiG4gty3DfcJkKGxIJmxHoHsZ7R2dQ0Snef4BvxZ294kJV-sacat7do9o7bn5fSJIeg-Jaa6S0ZVpHxDQvNroZ13azAhcOX2wTDw7wfA\">Renovation Church<\/a> says, \u201cGod sees you where you are, saves you where you are, but loves you too much to leave you where you are.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bank on it,\nthe pastor is going to say something you don\u2019t like, and most of the time, he\u2019s\nright. But at times, he\u2019s dead wrong. Sometimes, he makes mistakes. We have to\nallow him to make mistakes. We have to allow him to be human. We have to give\ngrace where we\u2019ve received grace. The calling of a pastor doesn\u2019t mean he just\ninstantly got a \u201cPerfection Upgrade\u201d. He\u2019s still a work in progress. But he has\nbeen given a job, a calling, a duty that you don\u2019t want. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Are you ready to get phone calls at 1am that someone is very ill or had an accident and they want their pastor there? Are you cut out to conduct a funeral with a casket that is about 2 feet long? Are you ready to be constantly ridiculed for every move and every word that comes out of your mouth? Are you prepared to be the target of every attack from our society? Are you prepared to lose friends over what you know is right?&nbsp; Be ready to have your motives questioned every time you make a decision. Get ready for people in your congregation to verbally assault you over speaking on a certain subject or a certain scripture because it was too \u201cconvicting\u201d. What\u2026 you don\u2019t want that job? Well that\u2019s the job your pastor signed up for and knew that\u2019s what he was getting into\u2026 and he did it anyway. Because he loves God and God\u2019s people more than himself! No, I don\u2019t understand it either, but the next time you are quick to attack a pastor, look at his heart before you jump to conclusions. Chances are, he\u2019s really trying his best. Remember, there&#8217;s ONLY ONE perfect person to ever live&#8230; and he&#8217;s not pastoring any church.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/stuggling-pastors-2-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-320\" width=\"305\" height=\"172\" srcset=\"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/stuggling-pastors-2-1024x576.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/stuggling-pastors-2-350x197.jpg 350w, https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/stuggling-pastors-2-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/stuggling-pastors-2-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/stuggling-pastors-2.jpg 1400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 305px) 100vw, 305px\" \/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>I know that growing up, my dad said many things that I didn\u2019t like. He often made decisions that were right- though I didn\u2019t know it at the time. He, sometimes, made decisions that were wrong. But at the end of the day, me and my brothers knew we were loved, protected and cared for. Even when we were mad. Because that\u2019s what family does. They butt heads &#8211; then forgive each other. If you want church to be a family, be ready for what family really is. The benefits are immeasurable. So, to family or not to family\u2026 it\u2019s up to you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Stay Classy GP!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Grainger<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Remember that school teacher you had that was one of your favorite teachers? Remember hearing that they either retired or passed away and how you felt? Sure, we all do. That person dedicated their entire life to help kids advance in life. If I asked for each of you to send me the name of &hellip; <\/p>\n<p class=\"link-more\"><a href=\"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/2019\/08\/14\/to-family-or-not-to-family-part-2-the-pastor\/\" class=\"more-link\">Continue reading<span class=\"screen-reader-text\"> &#8220;To Family or Not To Family&#8230; Part 2- The Pastor&#8221;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0},"categories":[12,5],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/314"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=314"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/314\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":327,"href":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/314\/revisions\/327"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=314"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=314"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=314"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}