{"id":1189,"date":"2026-02-14T06:44:00","date_gmt":"2026-02-14T12:44:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/?p=1189"},"modified":"2026-02-13T12:48:30","modified_gmt":"2026-02-13T18:48:30","slug":"single-awareness-day","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/2026\/02\/14\/single-awareness-day\/","title":{"rendered":"Single Awareness Day"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2><em>Why Being You and Working On You Are Both Good<\/em> <\/h2>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/valentines-2.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-1190\" width=\"690\" height=\"458\" srcset=\"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/valentines-2.png 869w, https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/valentines-2-300x200.png 300w, https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2026\/02\/valentines-2-768x511.png 768w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 690px) 100vw, 690px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__list wp-block-latest-posts\"><li><a class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-title\" href=\"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/2026\/04\/21\/why-therapy-is-so-hard-for-men\/\">Why Therapy is So Hard For Men<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-title\" href=\"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/2026\/04\/14\/according-to-research-you-and-i-are-probably-wrong\/\">According to Research, You and I Are Probably Wrong<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-title\" href=\"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/2026\/04\/07\/the-diary-of-existing-beliefs\/\">The Diary of Existing Beliefs<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-title\" href=\"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/2026\/03\/10\/the-dirty-s-word\/\">The Dirty \u201cS\u201d Word<\/a><\/li>\n<li><a class=\"wp-block-latest-posts__post-title\" href=\"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/2026\/03\/03\/dont-throw-the-message-out-with-the-mess-ups\/\">Don\u2019t Throw the Message Out With the Mess-Ups<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n<hr class=\"wp-block-separator has-alpha-channel-opacity\"\/>\n\n\n\n<p><em>This is for my single friends.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When I was single I celebrated the hatred of Valentine\u2019s Day. Literally got with other miserable young men and drank to the hatred of Valentine\u2019s Day. I\u2019m still not excited about the marketing pressure to make purchases you shouldn\u2019t in order to meet cultural norms. It\u2019s worse in dating than marriage. But still awful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Here are some things I wish I knew when I was younger.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3>Why Do You Get Married?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>If you marry because you love them, you\u2019ll divorce them because you don\u2019t love them.<\/em><\/strong> Love cannot and will not be a sustaining factor in marriage. It must be commitment. Commitment when it\u2019s hard, messy, gross, frustrating, and truly no fun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The work gets you through the tough times and makes the good times better than they have ever been.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Note: For Christians, you must marry someone solely because you believe God put this person in your path on purpose. What God put together let no man separate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3>Marital Problems<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Martial problems are rarely marital problems. They\u2019re almost always singleness problems that never got dealt with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Deal with you. Make you better. A partner won\u2019t transform you. They will just exacerbate what\u2019s already there. So put yourself in the strongest position possible before expecting success. Your relationship will never be successful if either of you are still broken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3>Single Is a Whole Number<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>You aren\u2019t a fraction of a person when you\u2019re single. You aren\u2019t second rate. Inferior. Missing out on life. You\u2019re single. Some choose to stay single their whole lives. Some don\u2019t. But if you\u2019re someone who wishes you weren\u2019t single, it\u2019s ok. You won\u2019t be forever. Just for now. If you rush, it will be a mistake.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3>What You Emit, You Attract<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>I had a daughter that at age 13 was posting sports bra pictures on Instagram. I sat her down and asked her what type of guy will like that post. She thought about it, and with honesty, said, \u201cBoys that only care about one thing.\u201d Yup.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote\"><p>\u201cWhat kind of boy would respond to a post where you have a cute outfit on holding a cup of coffee and a Bible?\u201d She said, \u201cThe marrying kind.\u201d Yup.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n<p>The presentation you deliver into the world will equal the response you receive. If you give thot vibes, you will get thots in your DMs. If you give classy vibes, you\u2019ll get classy in your DMs. Work on your presentation. And <em>be <\/em>the person you <em>want<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3>Familiarity<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>There was a study done at Yale involving 3-month-old to 7-month-old babies. The experiment involved three phases: Good vs bad, same vs different, the first two combined.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4><em>Infant Morality<\/em><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>In the experiment, they performed a puppet show for the babies. A gray bunny was trying to open a box but was struggling. Along came an orange bunny and helped him finish opening the box. Next, while the gray bunny was trying to open the box, a blue bunny came along and abruptly shut the box door so the gray bunny couldn\u2019t open it. They then presented the two bunnies for the infant to choose. Over 70% of the time they chose the good bunny.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4><em>Taste Buds Rule<\/em><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Next, they presented two types of food. Cheerios and Golden Grahams. The baby selected. Then the green bunny chose the same food they chose, while the purple bunny chose the other food and saying they didn\u2019t like the food the baby chose. Again, they were tasked to choose a bunny. Over 70% chose the bunny who chose the same food.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h4><em>A Fork in the Road<\/em><\/h4>\n\n\n\n<p>Lastly, they took the green and purple bunny and placed them in the first scenario. The green bunny who chose the same food as the baby was the bad bunny (no, not the Super Bowl guy) who slammed the box down. The purple bunny who chose a different food was the good bunny. They were at a crossroads. Do they choose the good bunny who chose a different food or the bad bunny who chose the same food? The majority chose the bad bunny who chose the same food. <strong>Familiarity took priority over morality.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Be intentional in choosing the right person, not the familiar person. This explains why people choose abusive partners. I had a client in my office last week. First session. She tells me her ex-husband was abusive and she just broke up with an abusive man. I asked her how often her dad abused her. She just started sobbing. She had yet to mention her dad. She didn\u2019t have to. She found what was familiar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s why people go back to spouses that abuse them. It\u2019s familiar. And I get why. New is scary. It\u2019s unchartered territory. It\u2019s unknown. It\u2019s just much easier to go back to what we already know, even if what we know is not good for us. This is why we must surround ourselves with the right people who will support us in this transition out of what\u2019s familiar and into what\u2019s best.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>DO NOT settle for familiar. In fact, don\u2019t settle at all. You\u2019re worth more. See your value the same way you value others.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Lastly, when you do find a partner, don\u2019t make Valentine\u2019s Day such a big deal. It\u2019s just another way retailers found to market our emotions. I treat my wife like she\u2019s a queen every single day of our lives. Therefore, when Valentine\u2019s Day gets here, it\u2019s just another day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Stay Classy GP!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Grainger<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Why Being You and Working On You Are Both Good This is for my single friends. When I was single I celebrated the hatred of Valentine\u2019s Day. Literally got with other miserable young men and drank to the hatred of Valentine\u2019s Day. 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