She\u2019s Going to Marry You<\/p>\n
I\u2019d give anything to go back to the day when my daughter, Rainey, was 3 years old. She dressed up in a wedding dress and made me walk down the aisle with her. Fast forward 13 years and she introduces me to her boyfriend\u2026and he looks like a mini-me. Not that I didn\u2019t already know it, but it really hit me at that moment\u2026 She\u2019s dating\u2026me.<\/p>\n
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I\u2019ve said before that all I was ever around growing up was boys. All my friends were boys with the exception of 2 amazing young ladies. And they were tomboys. So I quickly bought some books on how to be a father to a girl. I was literally thinking, \u201cWhat do girls eat? Do they really cry about everything? I wonder what my jail cell will look like when she\u2019s 16.\u201d I had no clue! After reading some books on it, I gained a new understanding and appreciation for girls.<\/p>\n
I learned that if you break them, if you\u2019re too loud when getting on to them, if you show any amount of anger, it breaks them. They don\u2019t recover as quickly as boys. They hold on to that grudge (some things never change no matter how old they get). You have to be gentle and win them over. But the biggest thing I learned had nothing to do with discipline.<\/p>\n
I learned that their entire view of themselves comes directly from ME. Great. I definitely didn\u2019t feel adequate for this. Her self-esteem, self-image, self-worth, comes from me\u2026 good or bad. If I treat them with respect, they will respect themselves. If I love them, they\u2019ll love themselves. If I talk down to them, they\u2019ll think down of themselves. It\u2019s all related. Mothers are great teachers but it\u2019s scientifically proven that absent fathers leave a huge void in their daughters that they look for in every man they encounter. Fathers possess something that mothers don\u2019t.<\/p>\n
God created mankind with relationships in mind. The most important relationship being between God and us. Fathers are the representation of God to his children. If we\u2019re mean and absent, they\u2019ll grow up thinking God is mean and absent. If we are gentle and positive, they\u2019ll grow up thinking God is gentle and positive.\u00a0![\"\"](\"http:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/12\/father-daughter-pic-1-300x300.jpg\")
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Obviously, there is grace (and an extra special spa in heaven) for single mothers. But at the end of the day, it\u2019s simply not God\u2019s design for children to be fatherless. Children, especially girls, need fathers. I remember the story of Bob Mumford being on a plane sitting next to a high priest in the satanic church. This priest told him that their number one objective is to remove fathers from the family and Christian church. Even Satan recognizes the need for fathers. The easiest way for an enemy to win a battle is to make you think there isn\u2019t one to begin with. So let\u2019s all agree now\u2026that there is a battle. A battle for fathers. We can also agree that we\u2019ll help each other out in those dark times where the battle\/opposition seems too strong. BE THERE FOR HER.<\/p>\n
Because she will marry\u2026 YOU.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
She\u2019s Going to Marry You I\u2019d give anything to go back to the day when my daughter, Rainey, was 3 years old. She dressed up in a wedding dress and made me walk down the aisle with her. Fast forward 13 years and she introduces me to her boyfriend\u2026and he looks like a mini-me. Not … <\/p>\n