{"id":1013,"date":"2025-04-21T09:54:19","date_gmt":"2025-04-21T15:54:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/?p=1013"},"modified":"2025-04-21T12:22:52","modified_gmt":"2025-04-21T18:22:52","slug":"inoculation-isolation","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tidbitsofaudacity.com\/wordpress\/index.php\/2025\/04\/21\/inoculation-isolation\/","title":{"rendered":"Inoculation > Isolation"},"content":{"rendered":"
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I\u2019ll never forget the story I once heard Christine Caine<\/a> tell about sending her daughter to kindergarten. She comes home from her first day and she\u2019s crying. Some boy called her stupid and it hurt her feelings. Caine\u2019s husband sits her down and says, \u201cLet me tell you what I think. I think you\u2019re very smart. And I think you\u2019re very beautiful, just like your mom.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The next day she comes home from school with a smile on her face and says, \u201cHey mom, that boy tried to call me stupid today and I told him that he\u2019s wrong because my dad says I\u2019m smart. Then he tried to call me ugly and I told him he was wrong about that too because my dad said I\u2019m beautiful just like you, mommy!\u201dSubscribed<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The little girl was almost elated to tell this story. Why? Because she realized she had an antidote for vitriol. She had a way to fight back and win. She was armed with the necessary tools to withstand great adversity (for a 5-year-old).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Caine told that story to point out that sometimes we need to remember what our Heavenly Father says about us when the lies from the world start creeping into our minds. And that\u2019s so true. I\u2019m going to take a slightly different angle here.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To me this screams inoculation over isolation (I must give credit where credit is due. I read that phrase in an article by Dr. Steve Stewart-Williams<\/a>. He is an accomplished psychologist and author). If she had never heard those words from that boy, she would\u2019ve gone through time having been shielded and not having built a resistance to hurtful words. By that point, she would have built up this unrealistic notion that people don\u2019t say hurtful things to each other and once this hurtful rhetoric is encountered after years of believing it didn\u2019t exist, the let down is significantly stronger than it would have been if she\u2019d learned it sooner. This would have caused greater stress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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As it stands, she learned it early. And was able to apply what she learned the very next day. The feeling that came over her in the wake of this new empowerment was driven by dopamine (the proper amount) and a sense of self achievement, self-efficacy, and proper cognitive alignment as it pertains to her identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is what has crippled an entire generation. Mom and dad bubble-wrapped them and when they entered the real world and found out they really weren\u2019t that special, it wrecked them, thinking it was certainly their fault. They had been able to make mom and dad happy and now somehow, they can\u2019t impress certain people, like the professor or the new boss\u2026 \u201cWhat\u2019s wrong with me?!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Keeping children isolated from what the world offers is the wrong way to go about it. It only delays the inevitable and causes more pain than if they\u2019d learned it sooner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It reminds me of a client Dr. Jordan Peterson<\/a> had who came in and could not overcome certain hurdles in life. She was in her late 20\u2019s and was dealing with issues like not being able to finish college. Couldn\u2019t keep a job. Couldn\u2019t set boundaries with her stepmom. Somewhere in the conversation Peterson noticed that she couldn\u2019t wrap her head around the idea of death, animals being used for food, and the processes of both. It was just too much. Peterson immediately knew what to do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He asked her to go to a butcher\u2019s shop with him. She needed to see the meat hanging. She needed to know what was out there. Exposure therapy. They went. She cried after walking 5 feet into the shop. So they left. They went back again. This time she stayed and touched the meat to gain a realistic acknowledgment of what she was witnessing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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At their next session, she asked to go to a slaughterhouse. She wanted to gain a deeper understanding. This blew Peterson\u2019s mind. This someone who could barely think of the idea, much less someone who would willingly attend something of this nature. Dr. Peterson couldn\u2019t arrange that but was able to get into a funeral home where they were embalming a body. So they went. Again, it was hard to watch. But she did.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happened next was amazing. She finished college. Got the career she wanted. Made a phone call and drew a healthy boundary with her stepmom. Everything fell in line. Now that she knew what the world actually had to offer, she was able to properly assess where she stood in the hierarchy of achievement.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I was a child, my mom didn\u2019t see how long she could keep me away from chicken pox, she gave me an inoculation so that my system knew what it looked like in order to fight it later.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If we wait to allow them to see what the world has to offer, they won\u2019t have the luxury of learning this under our guide as parents and instead learn the truth of the matter and coping mechanisms from those they are around, which may or may not be beneficial. The child is much better off learning the truth of the world while they can ask you about it rather than asking their dorm roommate who may use unhealthy coping mechanisms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Our children don\u2019t need isolation. They need inoculation. Don\u2019t hold all the information back. Of course I\u2019m speaking of age-appropriate info. We don\u2019t need to let a 5-year-old in on the mental issues of a psychopathic narcissist that murdered his wife and children. But they do need to be placed in a situation where they can hear hard things for their age and know that if little Johnny says something that doesn\u2019t line up with what mom and dad said, they can trust you<\/strong> and no longer need to acknowledge little Johnny\u2019s rhetoric.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Inoculate. Don\u2019t isolate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stay Classy GP!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Grainger<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I\u2019ll never forget the story I once heard Christine Caine tell about sending her daughter to kindergarten. She comes home from her first day and she\u2019s crying. Some boy called her stupid and it hurt her feelings. Caine\u2019s husband sits her down and says, \u201cLet me tell you what I think. I think you\u2019re very smart. And … <\/p>\n

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